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I need some advice.

How do you get over losing someone? Whether it's from home or here.

[After finding out Ophilia is gone, he's once again reminded of other lost connections. Gwendolyn, Ravage, Laserbeak, and Mainframe. And like those other times, he's no idea how to deal with his feelings. Part of him hated himself wanting to ask that.]

Also. This is a more peculiar problem. But is there anyone sensitive to their surrounding? Those who can hear the thoughts or emotions of the people around you.

How do you deal with how... loud it gets during the moon cycle? Avoiding people doesn't seem like an option due to the moon's urges.

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I would have suggested mediation for the second problem, but if your thoughts are being invaded like that I could see where the difficulty would lie.

As for the first...

I don't think anyone ever truly 'gets over' it.

Meditation? I could try something like that... if there's a place with less people around. Or if my Iris 'blessing' doesn't screw me over.

So do you just continue to feel terrible about it?

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I may be able to help a little with that? I have an ability that can calm negative emotions.

And, no. Grief is...

[Difficult. Painful. Complicated.]

Grief doesn't just make you feel one way forever. It changes. It comes and goes. You have good days and bad days. Days where the same memory that made you smile last week will make you feel sad all over again.

I don't think you ever stop missing what you lost but in time you do hurt less.

You can do that? Though mine isn't just negative emotions, it's emotions in general- they all are noisy, all the same.

So in time it'll hurt less. I am not sure when that time will come, given how the people I lost keeps stacking. [And Cybertronians come to terms with things too slowly.]

The main intent is to dispel negative emotions. Where I'm from there's creatures that are specifically attracted to them. It can work on just about any emotion, though.

I understand them being noisy, though.

That is entirely dependent on the person. Everyone heals at their own pace. The point is to let yourself heal at all, and be kind to yourself when it's difficult.

Uh, the only thoughts I can hear are my own, but those are enough. Especially (to segue into your first question) about people you've lost.

But with that, I just ended up leaning even harder on the people who were left.

It's a unique problem fo empath. At least in my case, I do not have full control over my powers, hence why others thoughts can invade mine. I wish I could hear only my own.

[His powers suck and he hates it, even when they are useful.]

I see. I have a few I can rely on, but even then... I'm tired of feeling this way.

I have a friend who has really good regular hearing. She's blind, so her ears overcompensate, I guess. She usually just yells at everyone to shut up... but that might not be your best option! Option two is do what my sister did. Find the person who's responsible and kill them-- only not, because that changes literally nothing.

I might be able to send a mass telepathic message telling everyone to be silent... But I do not think that would get anyone to stop thinking.

The one responsible for killing my friends is dead, not by my hand.

Still, I do not kill anymore.

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Would not work on me. I'm always thinking.

[Is, in fact, thinking about the 'do not kill anyone' thing, along the lines of 'Well, it works for Aang, and I don't say kill indiscriminately, but I hope you don't regret that vow.']

And it doesn't change how you feel. She figured that out before she did something she couldn't take back.

[He's gone through several years with that vow before coming here and is still doing good with that. It would take a lot to break the vow he made.]

I see. Good on her. The taking of life doesn't change much and isn't a choice to be taken lightly.

[But if you're a soldier, it's probably easier... He doesn't write that down. Instead, there's a delay before another reply comes in.]

The ones who killed my friends were already defeated. I still have no clue about who killed my first friend. And... I do not know who to be angry at for taking my friends here. It's not as if they died, they were just sent back to their respective worlds.

[At least he hopes they returned.]

2) I have a friend who's from a society of telepaths and we really hated her hearing our thoughts without permission. Is there really no way to just... Do the opposite of concentrate on that?

1) Keep busy.

My apologies, but your friend is a terrible friend if she does that without permission. I may not be able to fully control my powers, but I try not to intentionally read anyone's mind without permission.

[Even during the war, he has a code of honour regarding one's privacy.]

Anyway. The most I could do is try to focus on something else, even then thoughts could still invade mine. Normally, I can ignore them. The problem comes when emotional tensions are high. It gets worse when the three moons cycle begins.

Keep busy... But that doesn't stop you from feeling terrible, does it?

In her defense (she is my friend), 'society of telepaths' means that constant presence in and out of each other's minds was just part of their culture, and she was a young girl (this was about five years ago) who didn't fully realize that it wasn't part of ours. When we told her to stop, she stopped, very apologetically, and our friend group eventually developed a very rude habit of having secret telepathic conversations in front of other people. In other words, this place works against you even worse than normally, is that correct? I definitely got some extra emotional tension this week. It doesn't stop you, no, but it gives you something else to feel instead. It's similar to your strategy for other people's thoughts. The best part is, with keeping busy, you can choose what that extra feeling is. My personal recommendation is-- choose something that gives you a great sense of accomplishment. That way, when you are feeling terrible, you have something explicitly positive to counter with.

At least she apologizes. From my own experience, I do not like going into anyone's head and neither do I like anyone in mine. Still, 'society of telepaths'.

I didn't know there are many telepaths before arriving on this planet. As far as I'm aware in my universe, I am the only one with this mutation.

And yes, the moon cycle makes my powers worse on me. Outside of that, I can function as normal, even if it's still noisy.

I admit I'm still looking for something to keep me busy in this new life, trying out new things. I'm not as busy as I was back home- I ran a space station, a commune for my kind, and improving our species relationship with humans. All I have with me here is a cute video game. And perhaps moonlacing, too. That seems to alleviate some of the problem, but...

[Although he's been here for a year, he still feels weird asking his friends to moonlace with him, even with an appropriate human form.]

Now you know, it's never just you. :) Universes are big... That's a busy workload, yeah. Humans have only had limited contact with aliens where I'm from. There's a few famous ones, a few that are more stealthy in the background, aaaaand some random attacks, swiftly dealt with. Yeah! That's... that's a lot to ask sometimes.

Big... and crowded, apparently.

Seems that planet is famous for random attacks, even Earth media have stories like that. There's nothing interesting on that planet, except a couple of things.

[Should he mentioned the Decepticons invaded the planet, too? Nah. That was long ago, and he was following orders, not that it's a good excuse. Besides, they're now in good relations, even if they are some humans and Cybertronians who still hated each other.]

It's difficult to find a new purpose in life. Best I could is to search for it.

Old media, at that. I read The War of the Worlds when I was 12, and it was over 100yrs old by then. Well, don't be so focused on finding something that you forget to enjoy the search. The important thing is to look ahead, but don't forget to look around, either.

what do you mean get over it/ stop thinking about it/

Stop thinking about it, yes. Or at least, stop feeling miserable when a friend on this world vanished without warning.

someone told me i should make new friends. but it's not like new ones replace the old ones.

instead i try to think about new memories i can make. that way i can share them with my friends when i see them again. we used to do that back in our world.

[ Or a world since he's not sure The World That Never Was really counts as their world. Twilight Town was probably closer to feeling more like their world.. ]

It doesn't.

[The friends he still has now doesn't replace the ones who are gone, every one of them is unique and important.]

New memories, hm... I wish I can see my friends again so that I could share my memories with them. That doesn't seem likely.

Have you gone to other worlds before?

yeah, i used to visit other worlds a lot.

[ Not that he ever really interacted with people in most of them. ]

why don't you think it's likely/

I heard that we do not keep our memories and experiences from this world.

That, and I died in my universe.

even if all of you don't remember them exactly, part of you still will. they're not gone. just waiting to be found again.

died/

[ Sorry he's still unfamiliar with this concept. As it's never been explained to him using this particular term. ]

the first. time. but
you may never be over it for good
you can only go on

the second. find what grounds you
to the earth to your body even for a little while

Seems time is the only answer. It may take long before it starts to hurt less.

Normally I can find my ground just by concentrating on something. The moon cycles heightened my senses, apparently. It's difficult to find new way to ground myself while everyone is being so noisy.

if you let it overtake you you
can't live

try. to not let it.

i groom. bathe.
although i guess that is done best alone

when out around others
it might help to know what doesnt work already ?

I won't let it overtake me. Not again.

Hm, maybe... I'll try to list things that won't work.

I think the only time I know my powers aren't going against me is if I am around animals. Those are the only crowds I can be around without feeling like my mind is being invaded.

that makes sense but
it can't be enough. if youre still troubled enough to ask

what about one
just one person to focus on ?

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