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prismatica2020-04-05 07:35 pm
triggerhappytraitor) wrote in prismatica2020-04-05 07:35 pm
Text [Username: KRen]
[[Using a throw away account to attempt to be... at least a little bit more anon than he would be otherwise.]]
How can you tell if someone's resolve to be different than they were in the past is true?
And how do you stop thinking about someone who ruined your life.
How can you tell if someone's resolve to be different than they were in the past is true?
And how do you stop thinking about someone who ruined your life.
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I have wondered the same myself and can't say that I've come to a completely satisfactory answer.
One thing I have begun to realize, however, is that I don't have to be involved in their change.
If someone who hurt you has insisted that they've changed, well, that is good for them if they are sincere.
That doesn't necessarily mean you have to be a part of their life, or them yours.
And if they really have changed they will understand that.
I hope that helps?
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[[Especially when he's never been able to truly walk away from anything before]]
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Something far too complicated to explain simply.
[[Or in a way that wouldn't make it damned obvious who he was in case someone from his world was reading.]]
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I understand.
In that case the best I can suggest is that if you are wanting to keep them in your life out of some sense of obligation it's okay to be selfish.
In fact sometimes it's even healthy to be selfish, and what may seem like that is truly just looking out for yourself.
If it's because they are holding you there.
Well, that in itself tells you they aren't being sincere.
To stop thinking about them entirely...
Unfortunately I think that's only something that will pass with time.
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Time hadn't helped much before he showed up here.
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That makes things a lot more difficult.
[A lot more. Lobco is grateful for everyday that passes without any sign of Hijoushiki]
Has he been trying to force himself in your life?
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Not force.
[[Else this wouldn't be an issue and he would have just beat the stuffing out of Isaka yet again and called it solved.]]
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In that case a question I would pose is: what do you wish for?
If you were to somehow become certain that his resolve was true and he really had changed would that make you happy? Would you no longer want to try and forget about him?
Or would it not matter?
[Given what they said Lobco can't help but think it's the latter but she doesn't want to go assuming anything.]
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